Have any of you ever been in this situation? You’ve had dinner, drinks, and good banter. The vibe is there. She’s now chilling at your place, maybe on your couch or even on your bed with a drink in hand. But somehow, things don’t escalate. It feels like a stalemate.
I’ve experienced this a few times, and I’d love to hear how you guys navigate this stage. Let’s call this girl Dion—first time meeting, but things were going well. She was already on my bed drinking, but instead of things naturally progressing, we just… sat there. No physical escalation. No clear path forward.
Other times, I planned to move things forward during our banter, but somehow, I got too caught up in the convo and lost the moment. Next thing I know, we’re just drinking buddies, and when time’s up, she wants to go home. It’s happened more than once.
Even when there’s some physical closeness—like cuddling or playful touching—it often stops short. Sometimes she’ll lie down on my bed and say, “Five more minutes, then I’m leaving.” I’ll lie beside her, feeling the moment slipping away, and eventually, she slowly rolls away. Sian.
What I Think Is Happening
1. The “Drinking Buddy” Trap – I get too deep into conversation and lose the moment to escalate.
2. She Enjoys the Attention, But No Arousal – Hugging and cuddling happen, but she isn’t turned on enough to go further.
3. She’s Unsure & Testing Boundaries – Maybe she wants to see how I’ll handle it, or she’s just not fully comfortable yet.
4. She’s Just Not Feeling It That Night – And nothing I do can change that.
What I Want to Know
Bros, how do you handle this final stage and turn it into something more?
• How do you create natural escalation without making it awkward?
• How do you keep the energy sexual instead of just friendly banter?
• What’s your move when she says “Five more minutes” but isn’t making a move herself?
Keen to hear how you guys navigate this. Any tips to refine the approach? If
Re: How Do You Bros Seal the Deal? Need Some Insights
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Originally Posted by songuntiljurong
How Do You Bros Seal the Deal? Need Some Insights
Have any of you ever been in this situation? You’ve had dinner, drinks, and good banter. The vibe is there. She’s now chilling at your place, maybe on your couch or even on your bed with a drink in hand. But somehow, things don’t escalate. It feels like a stalemate.
I’ve experienced this a few times, and I’d love to hear how you guys navigate this stage. Let’s call this girl Dion—first time meeting, but things were going well. She was already on my bed drinking, but instead of things naturally progressing, we just… sat there. No physical escalation. No clear path forward.
Other times, I planned to move things forward during our banter, but somehow, I got too caught up in the convo and lost the moment. Next thing I know, we’re just drinking buddies, and when time’s up, she wants to go home. It’s happened more than once.
Even when there’s some physical closeness—like cuddling or playful touching—it often stops short. Sometimes she’ll lie down on my bed and say, “Five more minutes, then I’m leaving.” I’ll lie beside her, feeling the moment slipping away, and eventually, she slowly rolls away. Sian.
What I Think Is Happening
1. The “Drinking Buddy” Trap – I get too deep into conversation and lose the moment to escalate.
2. She Enjoys the Attention, But No Arousal – Hugging and cuddling happen, but she isn’t turned on enough to go further.
3. She’s Unsure & Testing Boundaries – Maybe she wants to see how I’ll handle it, or she’s just not fully comfortable yet.
4. She’s Just Not Feeling It That Night – And nothing I do can change that.
What I Want to Know
Bros, how do you handle this final stage and turn it into something more?
• How do you create natural escalation without making it awkward?
• How do you keep the energy sexual instead of just friendly banter?
• What’s your move when she says “Five more minutes” but isn’t making a move herself?
Keen to hear how you guys navigate this. Any tips to refine the approach? If
Re: How Do You Bros Seal the Deal? Need Some Insights
Quote:
Originally Posted by songuntiljurong
Even when there’s some physical closeness—like cuddling or playful touching—it often stops short. Sometimes she’ll lie down on my bed and say, “Five more minutes, then I’m leaving.” I’ll lie beside her, feeling the moment slipping away, and eventually, she slowly rolls away. Sian.
She also sian why you never proceed to kiss or touch her.
As one brother said, she must be thinking you are a fking gay.
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Re: How Do You Bros Seal the Deal? Need Some Insights
How to seal the deal depends on what's your deal? Any long term plans with her or is she a conquest you plan to pump and dump?
If got long term plans like serious relationship or marriage, don't be too smooth. Confirm the relationship first before getting physical. Otherwise it will come back to haunt you if your moves are too smooth.
If it's pump and dump, any common social network? School friends? Colleagues? If not, just make your move lah. Hug then kiss (gently ah) will be a good start
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Re: How Do You Bros Seal the Deal? Need Some Insights
Something must be very wrong if can drink in bed wo any action ?
What all the while the conversation about ?
Moreover she is giving final sign tat 5 more min she is leaving .... haiz wordless
Re: How Do You Bros Seal the Deal? Need Some Insights
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Originally Posted by loneyheart
Something must be very wrong if can drink in bed wo any action ?
What all the while the conversation about ?
Moreover she is giving final sign tat 5 more min she is leaving .... haiz wordless
After she arrived say it’s a bit uncomfortable since there are people living next room. So ended up she packed up and went off
At that point I just respected her intention and had some small talk before she left
Re: How Do You Bros Seal the Deal? Need Some Insights
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Originally Posted by songuntiljurong
After she arrived say it’s a bit uncomfortable since there are people living next room. So ended up she packed up and went off
Just tell her yr action will make her comfortable
Ask her where she is comfortable drinking with 2 alone ?
So next round ask her drink in the hotel room
Re: How Do You Bros Seal the Deal? Need Some Insights
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Originally Posted by loneyheart
Just tell her yr action will make her comfortable
Ask her where she is comfortable drinking with 2 alone ?
So next round ask her drink in the hotel room
Somehow that never came to my mind right away.. waiting for next round later this week.. after meet then propose hotel drink
Think that have too much of nice guy feel, respectful of boundary then like they also feel I not interested
Re: How Do You Bros Seal the Deal? Need Some Insights
Quote:
Originally Posted by songuntiljurong
How Do You Bros Seal the Deal? Need Some Insights
Have any of you ever been in this situation? You’ve had dinner, drinks, and good banter. The vibe is there. She’s now chilling at your place, maybe on your couch or even on your bed with a drink in hand. But somehow, things don’t escalate. It feels like a stalemate.
I’ve experienced this a few times, and I’d love to hear how you guys navigate this stage. Let’s call this girl Dion—first time meeting, but things were going well. She was already on my bed drinking, but instead of things naturally progressing, we just… sat there. No physical escalation. No clear path forward.
Other times, I planned to move things forward during our banter, but somehow, I got too caught up in the convo and lost the moment. Next thing I know, we’re just drinking buddies, and when time’s up, she wants to go home. It’s happened more than once.
Even when there’s some physical closeness—like cuddling or playful touching—it often stops short. Sometimes she’ll lie down on my bed and say, “Five more minutes, then I’m leaving.” I’ll lie beside her, feeling the moment slipping away, and eventually, she slowly rolls away. Sian.
What I Think Is Happening
1. The “Drinking Buddy” Trap – I get too deep into conversation and lose the moment to escalate.
2. She Enjoys the Attention, But No Arousal – Hugging and cuddling happen, but she isn’t turned on enough to go further.
3. She’s Unsure & Testing Boundaries – Maybe she wants to see how I’ll handle it, or she’s just not fully comfortable yet.
4. She’s Just Not Feeling It That Night – And nothing I do can change that.
What I Want to Know
Bros, how do you handle this final stage and turn it into something more?
• How do you create natural escalation without making it awkward?
• How do you keep the energy sexual instead of just friendly banter?
• What’s your move when she says “Five more minutes” but isn’t making a move herself?
Keen to hear how you guys navigate this. Any tips to refine the approach? If
I think the problem here is U shying away. She's already on your bed with U drinking/chatting, that alone is already a big green light and u didn't catch it? After that she still allow U to cuddle, what other message do U want from her? If U want to be romantic then just look deep into her eyes in silence then slowly go for her lips. If U want to be just a harmless fling kind of approach then just start kissing her neck or shoulder while cuddling her in your fucking bed.
Re: How Do You Bros Seal the Deal? Need Some Insights
Quote:
Originally Posted by songuntiljurong
How Do You Bros Seal the Deal? Need Some Insights
Have any of you ever been in this situation? You’ve had dinner, drinks, and good banter. The vibe is there. She’s now chilling at your place, maybe on your couch or even on your bed with a drink in hand. But somehow, things don’t escalate. It feels like a stalemate.
I’ve experienced this a few times, and I’d love to hear how you guys navigate this stage. Let’s call this girl Dion—first time meeting, but things were going well. She was already on my bed drinking, but instead of things naturally progressing, we just… sat there. No physical escalation. No clear path forward.
Other times, I planned to move things forward during our banter, but somehow, I got too caught up in the convo and lost the moment. Next thing I know, we’re just drinking buddies, and when time’s up, she wants to go home. It’s happened more than once.
Even when there’s some physical closeness—like cuddling or playful touching—it often stops short. Sometimes she’ll lie down on my bed and say, “Five more minutes, then I’m leaving.” I’ll lie beside her, feeling the moment slipping away, and eventually, she slowly rolls away. Sian.
What I Think Is Happening
1. The “Drinking Buddy” Trap – I get too deep into conversation and lose the moment to escalate.
2. She Enjoys the Attention, But No Arousal – Hugging and cuddling happen, but she isn’t turned on enough to go further.
3. She’s Unsure & Testing Boundaries – Maybe she wants to see how I’ll handle it, or she’s just not fully comfortable yet.
4. She’s Just Not Feeling It That Night – And nothing I do can change that.
What I Want to Know
Bros, how do you handle this final stage and turn it into something more?
• How do you create natural escalation without making it awkward?
• How do you keep the energy sexual instead of just friendly banter?
• What’s your move when she says “Five more minutes” but isn’t making a move herself?
Keen to hear how you guys navigate this. Any tips to refine the approach? If
Bro, u r a failure.
If yr home is not convenient, maybe suggest a staycation somewhere?
She's in yr room. All u have to do is to hold her hand and kiss it. U don't even need to kiss her lips yet.
03-03-2025, 11:27 AM
