A man can love to go to bed a woman but will never love her?

[Xgenre]

Originally Posted by janelee

But the diff with Sis devilhasfallen is....... He says he loves me. Should I believe him? Any advice bros?

Is that you in your avatar? Oh if it is, I love you already. You believe me? If so, time to take off the bra and panty for a quickie already. How old are you? Still got people go to Zouk ah?

Jane, sincere men love you for your brains and your personality. Horny men love you for your body and trust me, there is nothing special about the body in your avatar. B cup with 26 inch waist, very hard to find in Singapore meh? Nothing special then what's stopping him from bedding other girls right? Don't you read the stories here? Every girl in every story here is a min C cup already.

[Apocalypse]

Originally Posted by Xgenre

Is that you in your avatar? Oh if it is, I love you already. You believe me? If so, time to take off the bra and panty for a quickie already. How old are you? Still got people go to Zouk ah?

Jane, sincere men love you for your brains and your personality. Horny men love you for your body and trust me, there is nothing special about the body in your avatar. B cup with 26 inch waist, very hard to find in Singapore meh? Nothing special then what's stopping him from bedding other girls right? Don't you read the stories here? Every girl in every story here is a min C cup already.

Sbf recently a lot of D E F and G cup.

[janelee]

MMMMMMM, feels like I got many slaps in the face for being so stupid - but at least its reality speaking. Thanks for the advice everyone. You're probably right ):

And yes Xgenre, I'm pretty young, and still go to zouk etc etc. Nth wrong with that? (: probably my idealism/naivety is due to my age too, causing me to fall for all he says... girls always fall for the bad boys.

NOW.. the next step would be to wean off this addiction to him. arghhhh

[janelee]

But in all honesty... this situation has been kinda screwing up my life. My self esteem has taken a dip, and I'm pretty sure all women out there (including sis TS!) feel that way too. Its not something that i can share with my friends, especially since most view me as this super confident, outstanding and desirable individual, so being anonymous on SBF seems like the only way to discuss this.

Lol this is quite therapeutic.

THANKS SBF~

[devilhasfallen]

Originally Posted by shctaw

What a beautiful day.


Maybe you will find your Mr Right today. Do not hide at home; walk anyway, any how and most importantly anywhere.

Do not think too much of your past. Look forward.

Maybe there is someone around you whom really love you but somehow you just did not feel it. Love need time to brew. I never believe in love at first sight.

I am just a monkey pretending to be cupid...

I don't believe in love at first sight too. A relationship needs time to know each other. Guys are visualisation animals, so you get what I mean?

[Xgenre]

Originally Posted by janelee

MMMMMMM, feels like I got many slaps in the face for being so stupid - but at least its reality speaking. Thanks for the advice everyone. You're probably right ):

And yes Xgenre, I'm pretty young, and still go to zouk etc etc. Nth wrong with that? (: probably my idealism/naivety is due to my age too, causing me to fall for all he says... girls always fall for the bad boys.

Weren't you looking for wake up slaps in your first post? Since you are young, it's easier to take it as a growing up experience and tell yourself that you can do better in future. Oh by the way, it's not true that girls always fall for the bad boys but it's almost always true that naive girls always fall for the bad boys. I'm sure this forum can wise you up to the way of men.

Zouk is an interesting place. I'm surprised young girls are still going there. If your parents are young parents, they could have clubbed at Zouk too when they were your age! I clubbed at Zouk when there were still drugs readily available. Zouk was banned for a while then for drug related activities.

Originally Posted by janelee

But in all honesty... this situation has been kinda screwing up my life. My self esteem has taken a dip, and I'm pretty sure all women out there (including sis TS!) feel that way too. Its not something that i can share with my friends, especially since most view me as this super confident, outstanding and desirable individual, so being anonymous on SBF seems like the only way to discuss this.

Are you really super confident, outstanding and desirable? Nowadays, little girls aren't shy to praise themselves one hor? Anyway, if you aren't desirable, your ex-bf won't want you too right? Take this episode as more of a blip in self esteem rather than a permanent drop in self-esteem. There is no better way to raise your self-esteem than to do doll yourself up and get praises from others.

I found this thread interesting. http://sammy.guru/showthread.php?t=284107 She looks like a typical Singaporean young girl. The main difference is she costs guys $80 while some Singaporean girls are available for free.

[LeGarcon]

Most of the time it's what we choose to believe in that causes all our misery. If janelee accepts that her ex is only using her as a free bootycall, if she's a willing party why would she even complain? The fact that she did shows that she cannot accept that fact and that she allowed herself to be a bootycall.

Choose to see the truth, with logic.

[janelee]

Originally Posted by Xgenre

Weren't you looking for wake up slaps in your first post? Since you are young, it's easier to take it as a growing up experience and tell yourself that you can do better in future. Oh by the way, it's not true that girls always fall for the bad boys but it's almost always true that naive girls always fall for the bad boys. I'm sure this forum can wise you up to the way of men.

Zouk is an interesting place. I'm surprised young girls are still going there. If your parents are young parents, they could have clubbed at Zouk too when they were your age! I clubbed at Zouk when there were still drugs readily available. Zouk was banned for a while then for drug related activities.



Are you really super confident, outstanding and desirable? Nowadays, little girls aren't shy to praise themselves one hor? Anyway, if you aren't desirable, your ex-bf won't want you too right? Take this episode as more of a blip in self esteem rather than a permanent drop in self-esteem. There is no better way to raise your self-esteem than to do doll yourself up and get praises from others.

I found this thread interesting. http://sammy.guru/showthread.php?t=284107 She looks like a typical Singaporean young girl. The main difference is she costs guys $80 while some Singaporean girls are available for free.

Yes okay; took your advice this weekend and "dolled myself up". Accepted drinks from some guys too, but feeling a littttle bit guilty now. Is it right to accept drinks from them if im not gonna give them my number/talk to them beyond last night? My guy friends think that is super evil, apparently. Sigh, fun weekend marred by this guilt. And for you too, bro Xgenre, I suppose the 2-1 also killed your weekend a lil bit

You dont mince your words do you? Do you really have to burst every little bubble I have? Haha. All the qualities I described are what people think of me, not self-praise. Obviously if I'm here lamenting about how I'm treated, I dont feel that good about myself?

Yeah but honestly...... this is not something that can be solved by going out and making guys notice me. Not so simple once you've emotions in the equation.

[janelee]

Originally Posted by LeGarcon

Most of the time it's what we choose to believe in that causes all our misery. If janelee accepts that her ex is only using her as a free bootycall, if she's a willing party why would she even complain? The fact that she did shows that she cannot accept that fact and that she allowed herself to be a bootycall.

Choose to see the truth, with logic.

Ya lor you're right in that I cant accept that fact. But which woman is willing to be a bootycall?? To drop everything to meet for quickies? I mean its pretty exciting at first but after awhile you realise there's nothing more to it and thats when the doom and gloom sets in.

Actually I'm not sure what youre trying to say are you saying I should be more logical or I should view the situation from another pov...?

[Gambit7]

There are all kind of men in singapore. Some men can have sex with a hot pretty young girl anytime anywhere as long as there's a chance. Some men just love to have sex with his gf. Some men love to have sex only with his wife and so on. So it really depends on which type u r looking for and not judging the book by it's cover. If u jump into any guys who's a smooth talker and not knowing how deep is the water, then u only have urself to blame for it. Normally for a girl to jump into a guy takes a lot of feelings involved unless she's a slut, and when she did that, and later found out the guy's a jerk, she'll be hurt. So whose fault is it?

So get to know urself and know what u want first before considering the other person. Get to know that guy well and give urself time to analyse whether he's right for u or else u'll be spinning on an endless circle of the hurt that is created by urself.

[shortgirl]

Originally Posted by shctaw

Man will say anything to bed you. If he love you; it will not be from his mouth. He will do thing from his feeling and his heart. You will feel it too.

If you hear "I love you" at least once a day. It is usually fake.

Just ask yourself when is the last time he really care about you when you are down or bring you to the doctor when you are sick. Does he walk away when you cry; and does he even want to hold your hand in public? Does he kiss you in the cheek once a while? Does he hold your hand and kiss it with his lip when you are not on the bed? Does he ever care about what happen in your family? Does he help your family at all? Does he even ask about your family? Do he look angry and rejected when you refuse to have sex?

All it voice down to one thing only: Does he care about you?

You are so damn right about this.

[shctaw]

Funny how guys feel proud when girl accept their drinks. ($$)

If you do not enjoy it ; maybe your heart have not settle down.

Travelling may be better than working and playing. (to settle your emotion)

At least that is what I do when I feel sad. I go Hong Kong or Macau and stay for a week.

Originally Posted by janelee

Yes okay; took your advice this weekend and "dolled myself up". Accepted drinks from some guys too, but feeling a littttle bit guilty now. Is it right to accept drinks from them if im not gonna give them my number/talk to them beyond last night? My guy friends think that is super evil, apparently. Sigh, fun weekend marred by this guilt. And for you too, bro Xgenre, I suppose the 2-1 also killed your weekend a lil bit

You dont mince your words do you? Do you really have to burst every little bubble I have? Haha. All the qualities I described are what people think of me, not self-praise. Obviously if I'm here lamenting about how I'm treated, I dont feel that good about myself?

Yeah but honestly...... this is not something that can be solved by going out and making guys notice me. Not so simple once you've emotions in the equation.

[devilhasfallen]

Originally Posted by Gambit7

There are all kind of men in singapore. Some men can have sex with a hot pretty young girl anytime anywhere as long as there's a chance. Some men just love to have sex with his gf. Some men love to have sex only with his wife and so on. So it really depends on which type u r looking for and not judging the book by it's cover. If u jump into any guys who's a smooth talker and not knowing how deep is the water, then u only have urself to blame for it. Normally for a girl to jump into a guy takes a lot of feelings involved unless she's a slut, and when she did that, and later found out the guy's a jerk, she'll be hurt. So whose fault is it?

So get to know urself and know what u want first before considering the other person. Get to know that guy well and give urself time to analyse whether he's right for u or else u'll be spinning on an endless circle of the hurt that is created by urself.

Guys are complicated... Some guys are very patient, even after spending time with them, they will make gals feel 'right' until they get them into bed, then it becomes another story.

Another thing I do not understand about guys, how can they bed a woman while loving another whom they can't get. So at the end of the day, guys treasure and think about more of those they can't get?

What about guys playing mind games?

[shctaw]

Some men love to hunt. If you are in their radar; you are in some real shit.

Most of this men are sweet talker; and they can talk to any girls at any places. If he is rich; it is like Tiger with Wings.

Worst of all; he can read girls heart after a short conversation. And he pretend to be your Mr Right after your conversation hints.

Event you guard yourself tightly; you will lost the battle at the end.

Best of all.... even you read what I write; you will still get hunted again....

Originally Posted by devilhasfallen

Guys are complicated... Some guys are very patient, even after spending time with them, they will make gals feel 'right' until they get them into bed, then it becomes another story.

Another thing I do not understand about guys, how can they bed a woman while loving another whom they can't get. So at the end of the day, guys treasure and think about more of those they can't get?

What about guys playing mind games?

[Mr_don_juan]

Originally Posted by devilhasfallen

Any guys can enlighten me on the topic?

How do men differentiate it so clearly?

He can say that he gets hard the moment he sees me and loves me in bed with him but he don't like me...

Same logic as a man watch porn and get hard on despite not knowing her at all. It just some animal instinct since adam and eve.. what's new