How to make husbands happy?

[voluptuousvenus]

My marriage hasn't been in good shape for the past few years (major reason why I'm in SBF)... Hubby seems unhappy all the time. Always stressed, snaps at the simplest thing I say or do. He nags and say hurtful words. No more romantic dates, not even on anniversaries. I have needs too. I want to feel special. I try to tell him that but it always fall on deaf ears. He says there is nothing to celebrate. Been married for almost 10 year and it gets tiring. I want to hold on and I'm trying my best to add spice to our boring lives.. But it doesn't work.

I'm never the timid type and I say my thoughts. I still respect him as a husband and I try to be submissive on certain ways. I don't know what else to do...

Can you guys tell me what makes you happy?

[yangyang77]

Originally Posted by voluptuousvenus

My marriage hasn't been in good shape for the past few years (major reason why I'm in SBF)... Hubby seems unhappy all the time. Always stressed, snaps at the simplest thing I say or do. He nags and say hurtful words. No more romantic dates, not even on anniversaries. I have needs too. I want to feel special. I try to tell him that but it always fall on deaf ears. He says there is nothing to celebrate. Been married for almost 10 year and it gets tiring. I want to hold on and I'm trying my best to add spice to our boring lives.. But it doesn't work.

I'm never the timid type and I say my thoughts. I still respect him as a husband and I try to be submissive on certain ways. I don't know what else to do...

Can you guys tell me what makes you happy?

Talk things out, have h2h talk and make him feel wanted.
somtimes life is not mean to be smooth sailing but if you attend to his needs eg he want to rest after a hard day at work or what he want to eat and all i believe he will feel bad to neglect you too. my 2c worth. cheer up and be happy and stay positive!!

[randyrockhard]

Have you tried asking him "What can I do for you to make your day better?"

[Triple70]

Start wearing FBT shorts and posting selfies on instagram with public settings.
Start working on a BMI 18 figure.
When other guys start appreciating you, so will that hubby.
Be happy and stay demure.
Focus on your own chiobu personality and stop mothering and being an aunty.

[nutman38]

TS, you sure your husband does not have other women outside?
If yes, it might be the reason why he always snap at you.
And find faults on whatever you do.

First, you need to find why he is always stress?
Then you can go from there.

[yeeteck]

feed your husband stomach full and keep the small head satisfied

[voluptuousvenus]

Hmmm...

Seemed like I have done all that had been suggested...

Oh well... Sometimes you just can't force it...

Cook for him, he will complain, taking too much time cooking.
Exercise too much, he will complain, not productive.
Work so much, he will complain, out til so late.
Ask for date, he will complain, not necessary.
Shop for new clothes, he will complain, i dont need so much.

I feel worthless nowadays. I never seem to do anything right. And he tells it to my face. Freaking life!!

He should have married an aunty. Seriously!! I think his life could have been better.

[merelyevil]

Originally Posted by voluptuousvenus

Hmmm...

Seemed like I have done all that had been suggested...

Oh well... Sometimes you just can't force it...

Cook for him, he will complain, taking too much time cooking.
Exercise too much, he will complain, not productive.
Work so much, he will complain, out til so late.
Ask for date, he will complain, not necessary.
Shop for new clothes, he will complain, i dont need so much.

I feel worthless nowadays. I never seem to do anything right. And he tells it to my face. Freaking life!!

He should have married an aunty. Seriously!! I think his life could have been better.

Sorry to hear that ms/mdm. From what you had described (have yet to hear both sides of the story), you are quite a devoted wife who tries your best to fulfill your role in this marriage but he does not appreciate it in any way. Usually as a guy, if he does not appreciate it, in my honest opinions there are a few possibilities

1) he is trying to turn you away and hope you will divorce with him because he either has another lady he likes or he has turned gay

2) he is bored of this relationship

3) he is eating outside. Metaphorically

Either way, you have to know the root of the problem. We in the forum can only give you our opinions, decision is still really up to you. If my potential date has your traits, I will gladly die to marry her.

Cheers

[Triple70]

Guys are visual creatures. Care to reveal yr bmi?

[Kuan Aik Hong]

Because the mirror has been broken.......is not easy to mend.

[lickman]

Originally Posted by voluptuousvenus

Hmmm...

Seemed like I have done all that had been suggested...

Oh well... Sometimes you just can't force it...

Cook for him, he will complain, taking too much time cooking.
Exercise too much, he will complain, not productive.
Work so much, he will complain, out til so late.
Ask for date, he will complain, not necessary.
Shop for new clothes, he will complain, i dont need so much.

I feel worthless nowadays. I never seem to do anything right. And he tells it to my face. Freaking life!!

He should have married an aunty. Seriously!! I think his life could have been better.

Jus like to know any kids?

[maxsee]

If you need to come to a sex forum and ask what would make your husband happy...then something is seriously wrong with your marriage...Sex should be the least you both should be worried about....maybe sit down with him and have a good chat or ask him about how things would be better and highlights the issues u encountered.....

[otamay]

Give your husband a free hand and let him go what he wants.

[a2014]

Originally Posted by voluptuousvenus

Hmmm...

Seemed like I have done all that had been suggested...

Oh well... Sometimes you just can't force it...

Cook for him, he will complain, taking too much time cooking.
Exercise too much, he will complain, not productive.
Work so much, he will complain, out til so late.
Ask for date, he will complain, not necessary.
Shop for new clothes, he will complain, i dont need so much.

I feel worthless nowadays. I never seem to do anything right. And he tells it to my face. Freaking life!!

He should have married an aunty. Seriously!! I think his life could have been better.

@voluptuousvenus, whatever had happened already happened, do not look back. The difficult part is to make your partner happy when you yourself is not happy.

It takes two hands to clap therefore not necessary fault all lies on one person. When both of you get married, I am sure it's not by convenience, certainly there is some form of affection and love in it. How it get to today's situation, along the way I guess many things must have happened be it consciously or sub consciously.

When you point a finger at someone, don't forget the other four fingers are pointing at yourself therefore it is necessary to take a harder oneself as how things has gone down the drain. Sometime it may be communication broken down or when you take each other for granted that eventually ended up as differences between both.

However, whatever written here is very brief therefore none of us can give proper advise as it's only a one sided explanation. I am not saying you are not telling the truth, just only trying to understand how a man who love his woman in the past ended up picking on every single details. Maybe he has his side of his explanation. Man don't turn against the woman he love in the beginning so easily.

Be it whatever happening, do take care of yourself and act wisely.

[voluptuousvenus]

Originally Posted by a2014

@voluptuousvenus, whatever had happened already happened, do not look back. The difficult part is to make your partner happy when you yourself is not happy.

It takes two hands to clap therefore not necessary fault all lies on one person. When both of you get married, I am sure it's not by convenience, certainly there is some form of affection and love in it. How it get to today's situation, along the way I guess many things must have happened be it consciously or sub consciously.

When you point a finger at someone, don't forget the other four fingers are pointing at yourself therefore it is necessary to take a harder oneself as how things has gone down the drain. Sometime it may be communication broken down or when you take each other for granted that eventually ended up as differences between both.

However, whatever written here is very brief therefore none of us can give proper advise as it's only a one sided explanation. I am not saying you are not telling the truth, just only trying to understand how a man who love his woman in the past ended up picking on every single details. Maybe he has his side of his explanation. Man don't turn against the woman he love in the beginning so easily.

Be it whatever happening, do take care of yourself and act wisely.

He is ok at times but extremely impatient, always finding fault, always nagging. I feel like the husnand in this marriage. He is the nagging wife and I'm in SBF seeking advise from random people.

I am not here to blame. I'm just frustrated and disappointed. We can pass as a happy couple... Deep inside, unhappy.