Need advise for my friend

[mecurix86]

am helping out a friend who has an issue currently. heres the real story:

my friend: max 32yo chi
his gf: J 29yo chi

shall not beat around the bush...
they have been together for almost 2 years and just recently max brought J's cpu back home as his com is down and J is willing to let max use her com as she seldom use it as often as max. max asked me out for a drink one night and told me that he saw a sex clip of his gf, J with her previous ex bf of 8 years...

me and max have been really close and best friend since we r in our early 20s and we share almost every secrets to each other, even talked abt sex topics openly. how max know the guy in the clip was her ex? simple...J told max before.

alright the problem now that max has already proposed to J and J said yes. after watching the clip(yes he showed me as i thought he was joking around), max was so frustrated that J didn't tell him about it and kept it in silence. I told max that whats passed is already the past and he shouldn't let it bother him. he got so angry and pissed that he started asking me what if i were him? how would i react?

i thought about it and feel that i may need u bros here to give advise or suggestions on whether max should speak to his gf about it or just keep quiet and be unhappy. Max was saying that J rejected when he wanted to make a sex video with J and he feels that J loves her ex more than him because of that. Also, hiding this secret to him which I told Max that its because she doesn't want him to feel upset or affected about her past. To me, I feel that J may have already forgotten about this and didn't realise its still in the cpu when she passed max to use. and max was telling me he feels dirty kissing the lady(J) he loves now that he know she has been sucking her ex dick for the past 8 yrs. hes also very upset that he's not the first to penetrate her RAW. he's now penetrating a used and dirty pussy. blah blah blah...

i guessed in max's mind is whether or not to continue this relationship or end it but i have told him to keep his cool and take it like a man. those are things of the past and he shouldn't be bother or thinking about them. the only thing he should be thinking is their future and how much he loves her and thats all. Max argued and said that he felt disgusted now whenever he received msg or call or even meeting J. I feel that the clip really affected him and want to help this bestie of mine. I would like to hear comments from bros here and probably show him that I am not the only one who's encouraging him to keep the relationship.

info on the clip, i do not have it nor own it. its a combination of small and long clips which makes it into one video... around 13hrs(yes i know its crazy which is why my bestie Max is feeling crazy right now). any kind of positions u can think of, they have done it in the clip. there was even date and time recorded in it so they have been fucking every alternate days for the past 8 yrs until they broke up. do not pm me for anything as i do not have it but i just want to help my bestie here as i feel that he needs more ppl to give him positive feedback on how he should handle it before its too late to save this relationship.

[sadfa]

Originally Posted by mecurix86

am helping out a friend who has an issue currently. heres the real story:

my friend: max 32yo chi
his gf: J 29yo chi

shall not beat around the bush...
they have been together for almost 2 years and just recently max brought J's cpu back home as his com is down and J is willing to let max use her com as she seldom use it as often as max. max asked me out for a drink one night and told me that he saw a sex clip of his gf, J with her previous ex bf of 8 years...

me and max have been really close and best friend since we r in our early 20s and we share almost every secrets to each other, even talked abt sex topics openly. how max know the guy in the clip was her ex? simple...J told max before.

alright the problem now that max has already proposed to J and J said yes. after watching the clip(yes he showed me as i thought he was joking around), max was so frustrated that J didn't tell him about it and kept it in silence. I told max that whats passed is already the past and he shouldn't let it bother him. he got so angry and pissed that he started asking me what if i were him? how would i react?

i thought about it and feel that i may need u bros here to give advise or suggestions on whether max should speak to his gf about it or just keep quiet and be unhappy. Max was saying that J rejected when he wanted to make a sex video with J and he feels that J loves her ex more than him because of that. Also, hiding this secret to him which I told Max that its because she doesn't want him to feel upset or affected about her past. To me, I feel that J may have already forgotten about this and didn't realise its still in the cpu when she passed max to use. and max was telling me he feels dirty kissing the lady(J) he loves now that he know she has been sucking her ex dick for the past 8 yrs. hes also very upset that he's not the first to penetrate her RAW. he's now penetrating a used and dirty pussy. blah blah blah...

i guessed in max's mind is whether or not to continue this relationship or end it but i have told him to keep his cool and take it like a man. those are things of the past and he shouldn't be bother or thinking about them. the only thing he should be thinking is their future and how much he loves her and thats all. Max argued and said that he felt disgusted now whenever he received msg or call or even meeting J. I feel that the clip really affected him and want to help this bestie of mine. I would like to hear comments from bros here and probably show him that I am not the only one who's encouraging him to keep the relationship.

info on the clip, i do not have it nor own it. its a combination of small and long clips which makes it into one video... around 13hrs(yes i know its crazy which is why my bestie Max is feeling crazy right now). any kind of positions u can think of, they have done it in the clip. there was even date and time recorded in it so they have been fucking every alternate days for the past 8 yrs until they broke up. do not pm me for anything as i do not have it but i just want to help my bestie here as i feel that he needs more ppl to give him positive feedback on how he should handle it before its too late to save this relationship.

My advice is the best here as usual.

Knn la. In this day n age still got ppl doing this meh?
I don't mean home make porn video but say its your 'friend'.

My advice is simple.
Tell your gf u want to Break up ASAP.
Reason is you're very childish n immature for a 32 yr old man.

Everybody got their past. Wad your gf did with her ex bf is.......... none of your business. As if u told her about ALL the whores, ktv gers, ml you fucked. N sucked your cock. Obviously not!!!!

If you can't get wad she did out of your antique mind, Apologize for wasting two years of her life.
You don't deserve her.
You should get a virgin bride who can be a fucking mess but at least she's a virgin.

And go to all the hospitals n put yourself on the waiting list for virgins being born. Kaozzzz.

Anyway who will write so long at 4 am for his 'friend'.

& this post is useless without the video.
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Exchange points for your 'friend' ma?

[nutman38]

If the videos are only like a few minutes, I can let it go.
But to have so many videos that accumulate to 13 hours, that is WOW.
If I were Max, I will go crazy too.

Tell Max to cool off with J for 1 month and see how it goes.
If Max still loves J by then, ask him to let this matter go and focus on the future. No point dwelling on these History.

Or tell Max if J only have 100 days to live, will Max still be with her or break off with her just because of these videos.

Life is too Short! Cherish each other!

[virgone]

Obviously he doesn't really love her, just want to fulfill the sexual fantasies with her only.

if he loves her, this is not a big issue as it is already past.

instead of looking forward to their happy life and ways to build it, he's looking back at her secret that she might have regretted doing and try to. forget about.

1 word. Childish.

[coleman77]

TS, I have only 5 words for you/ your Friend，爱的不够深.

[maxsee]

Why would the girl still keep the sex videos...simply don't understand.....

[coleman77]

Originally Posted by maxsee

Why would the girl still keep the sex videos...simply don't understand.....

There are thousand and one reason why she still keep the video. Never try to understand women. You just need to be smart and sensitive enough to pick up her words to you.

[atmos]

ohh.. thats bad. how to continue this r/s? tell ur buddy, if he love her, please end this r/s. no point wasting time.

Bcos this lady deserve someone better than this guy born witha pea brain.
i bet he must be a 30yr old virgin back then. real bad... loser...

[marzsomeone]

If you love someone you accept their past and move on to create a beautiful future of your own. If max is so heated up cause of J's past, then where his love for her stands? At least J is honest with her past relationships, and like other brothers says she may totally forgotten about the clip or maybe her ex bf put it in there.

Move on or break up. Is the past really that important? You cannot change it anyway

[clapton]

Originally Posted by sadfa

My advice is the best here as usual.

Knn la. In this day n age still got ppl doing this meh?
I don't mean home make porn video but say its your 'friend'.

My advice is simple.
Tell your gf u want to Break up ASAP.
Reason is you're very childish n immature for a 32 yr old man.

Everybody got their past. Wad your gf did with her ex bf is.......... none of your business. As if u told her about ALL the whores, ktv gers, ml you fucked. N sucked your cock. Obviously not!!!!

If you can't get wad she did out of your antique mind, Apologize for wasting two years of her life.
You don't deserve her.
You should get a virgin bride who can be a fucking mess but at least she's a virgin.

And go to all the hospitals n put yourself on the waiting list for virgins being born. Kaozzzz.

Anyway who will write so long at 4 am for his 'friend'.

& this post is useless without the video.
____________
Exchange points for your 'friend' ma?

Totally agree. Can't image nowadays still got ppl like your frd (or yourself).

It's fucking stupid and childish.

Ask max to wake up and go break up lar. He is not a man and not ready for the real world.

[Brogary]

The fact that he expresses his disgust already shows his decision already. Just break up lah. The scar is already there and it will remain even after they are married. If he can't take it like a man, then don't bother getting in a relationship in the first place or even talk about marriage.

[lickNpoke]

Max is entitled to his own perspective. Since he feel dirty kssing the month of his girl who have been sucking and probably swallowing sperms of her ex of 8 years he should just end it all and go find a sexually innocent girl.

Because if this girl marries him become wife she would be using the same mouth to kiss his children and him and he definitely would not like it.

So best go call if off now or remain disgusted his whole life until or day he just decided he can't take it anymore and kills everyone in his family and call police in admission of his crime. This type of thing hard to say....

It is obvious he cannot come to terms with his girlfriend sucking the same or perhaps other cocks in her past. Best to calls it quits since there is time. Why suffer mentally when one can still have things rectified in time? Mental tolerance varies so best not attempt to push beyond barriers.

Some must marry virgin others ok to marry a prostitute.... We are entitled to our own perspective.

[huaheejiuhor]

Originally Posted by marzsomeone

If you love someone you accept their past and move on to create a beautiful future of your own. If max is so heated up cause of J's past, then where his love for her stands? At least J is honest with her past relationships, and like other brothers says she may totally forgotten about the clip or maybe her ex bf put it in there.

Move on or break up. Is the past really that important? You cannot change it anyway

True.

Come on you are having an sexpert who had been thru alot in relationship. If the love making is good then you should expert she had plenty of practise with partners.

If you cannot accept then let others have her. I am sure plenty around to take your place.

Don't tell me your friend so naive!

[Ohayougozaimas]

Originally Posted by maxsee

Why would the girl still keep the sex videos...simply don't understand.....

Get herself reminded of the good sex.

[tynside]

TS, tell your friend don't go out find chicken or go sin city.