[Willamshakspear]

Mr Fallen11 had given good & detailed advice. My suggestions will be kept short, & points to ponder to help.

From your list:-

1) You accepted it, to keep the hostage-your son-safe. It will be joint custody in Singapore Court. No one has full custody unless one of the parent is a convicted criminal, subjected to the Judge's assessment to protect the child.

2)In divorce cases, all assets will be split 50-50, no matter the circumstances. Thus the house will have to be sold & proceeds split, or the other half pays the balance of loan & CPF on the house to keep it.

3)After divorce, each will go their own way anyway, as the house would had been sold, so leaving the house is not an issue.

4)As for 90% of your income, tell her to dream on & sober up. She would be considered very lucky if she manages to get 30%, & even that, she would have to list out the reasons to obtain 30% - child needs, justifiable living expenses, med bills, etc. Hair care at Reds Saloon, manicure sessions, etc would not hack it to a Singaporean Judge. Even AWARE, which protects women's rights, would not condone 90% figure. Any lawyer would had explained to her, & would never win even if contested.

As for yourself, you will need to prepare a list on your own financial lists to your lawyer to negotiate the settlement:-

a)Taxes.
b)Living expenses
c)Med bills for treatment of existing conditions
d)If sole breadwinner for your own family-living & med expenses for parents & siblings.
e)Car loan & maintenance if any, as you will require it for work
f)Any existing loans incurred, etc, etc.
g)After the house is sold, show your expenses needed to buy & maintain another shelter for yourself-loan, CPF, utilities,etc.

She does seemed unreasonable, as if she was drunk when she made those demands to you. No more Mr. Nice guy, you need be. She needs to be shocked to make her come to her senses, to prevent a contested divorce & save those expenses for your son's future.

a)Hire a professional Private Investigator, who will provide professional evidences of her extreme drinking habits - shopping for wine, in company of others & what she does after drinking bouts.

b)Install hidden cameras at home where she drinks & throw her tantrums, & use it as evidence.

c)Should anyone-you or your son is harmed by her drunken bouts, immediately go to any 24hr med clinic to get treatment & professional certification of harm done. Even a mere slap will leave marks & will be considered abuse.

With such evidences, give it to your lawyer, whom will negotiate with her lawyer, whom will explained to her that it will be worse for her if she pushes for contested divorce, & she will lose MORE than she had unreasonably demanded.

With all sincerity, I hope it may not need to go this far, & hope that you both may reconcile instead. Rather than to ask for divorce, perhaps you should ask why had a love that started so right ended up like this, & if responded, try to find compromises to mend the relationship, if possible.

All the best. :-)