[young_ad]

I am new here, just want to share my experience and maybe get some advice from the brothers and sisters out here.

I had this very good friend from secondary school. We used to study together, chill out together and stuff like that.

After O Levels we both went to different schools, (she went to JC and I went to poly), but we still kept in contact and went out regularly.

I wouldn't say I liked her like a girlfriend but there was this attraction.

We often went pubbing together, Kalture at Purvis St. was one of our fav. hangouts.

However, one night about two years ago, we just had a drinking session and I sent her home in a taxi. I think we were both high or drunk or something. She started teasing me in the taxi.

I can't really remember what happened after that but she told me her parents were overseas (she's an only child), and she asked me to stay over at her place.

We both must have been really drunk as I cannot remember what happened except that I woke up naked next to her and there were some stains on her bedsheet.

She woke up a little while after and we both didn't say anything. Maybe it was because we were embarrassed or something.

I left awhile later.

In the weeks that followed, she never replied to my sms, or msn msgs and didn't answer when I called her on the phone. I even emailed her asking what's wrong. But she didn't reply.

One day I got an sms from her and all she said was "sorry abt that nite".

And after that we totally lost touch.

So what I am wondering is,

why is it so hard to remain friends?

I had the impression that we were pretty good friends.

Does sex really spoil the friendship?

What can I do to salvage the friendship, if there even is one left?

Last I heard, she left for Australia to further her studies.

Till this day, she still doesn't reply to my msgs.

I am quite sad to lose her as a friend.

Comments and Advice are welcome.

Thanks.