Mr Watchmen, in reply to your decision, let me share my thoughts - they will find their outlet whether u give them off or not. I am not a maid expert and i dare not say i am. But i have met enough of them to tell u that they are just human beings. If u can get emotionally hungry and need to find your outlet here, why do u think they should be emotionally starved?
U think by stopping them from off will quench their hunger? U make them hungrier.... and unless u are prepared to feed them (which i doubt u should) they will find their way out whether u stop them from their leave or not. Well, maybe unless u are with them everywhere they go... market with them, buy whatever with them.... follow them everywhere they go. Mr watchmen, then u become your good dear maid's bodyguard!...
Same as just like if u have a daughter. Are u going to keep her in house all her years and strap her to your body becos of what u read in this forum?
What you and i are reading here in this forum are honest human beings who are willing to bare their hearts to the rest.
Read the other forum thread on the wife stuff "http://sammy.guru/showthread.php?p=5732554#post5732554" I think what we are experiencing is nothing but common.
With maids, we are dealing with the foreign imports at least, and hopefully can preserve the locals for the good of our future.