well...
bro...
it's kinda sad to hear your story.
but yeah when you attach feeling into something, the thing becomes serious
so...my advice is to get to know her very well and then u can try attaching your feeling towards her
spending money for a woman is somekind of investment~ so...investments are mostly risky
u gotta know the benefits...
before u know the benefits (maybe marriage or FB), just try to avoid making BIG investments..hehe..
cheers bro..