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Originally Posted by Needsomeadvice
Hi all, sorry I’m not sure where to start even
But I will try to spell it out as clear as possible
I’m in the age group of 34 to 38
I used to travel quite abit for work
During one of my work trip, I knew a girl
Nothing special came out during the trip but she took my number and asked me out.
So we went out for a few time and there’s some chemistry between both of us and we had great sex(protected)
She’s looking for a guy to settle down, and that’s when I knew I screwed up when I lied to her saying that I’m single.
Unable to get past my own issue, I decided to tell her and thought things will just end there
But she accepted that I’m married after some drama and tears, and she gave me time to divorce with my wife within 1 year.
Point to note
Things are not great between me and my wife
But not to the extend of divorcing her
The last time I had sex with my wife was like in 2019
I feel that my love for my wife has become a responsibility instead and there is no more growth in our relationship
But with this girl, she seems like the perfect woman to settle down with but I do not know, after all I just knew her for less than 2 months
I’m not sure if I’m willing to throw away my marriage of 8years for this girl
On a side note, this girl feels like your first love and you can feel that she genuinely love me kind
But as all relationship in the beginning, not sure if that would change
I’m not sure what is my question here, just wanna share my story here and listen to inputs from you guys
And if this is required, the new girl is not as pretty as my wife and older by 2 years too
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bro, i think need more communication with your wife. of cos sex helps with any relationship, but like other bros said, i think it's the freshness of your new fling that makes you feel wanted/something you yearn for. i suggest you take a look at your new fling's interest (what she can gain from knowing you. you never know whether it's an act or not since SG PR is highly valuable). if you think your marriage has no meaning, best to hang on first and just go for paid sex. act only when you're have a clearer mind, else you're on disadvantaged ground. grass is always greener before you make the move, but is it always ? only happens in your mind