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Originally Posted by JWNY
That's quite presumptuous don't you think? I once had a very close bro who insisted to me that he was the ONE, only to return home heart-broken but not dejected...he moved on with someone else. I'm not sure about now as we've lost contact but the reality is - the stigma of the FL may be forgotten...but it cannot be erased. 
JWNY
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Hello Bro JWNY,
Thanks for the points, you will not be forgotten.
Yes, some of my posts or statements are presumptuous. But aren't many of the posts in this forum too? That's human nature after all as we're not having an academic discussion. More like.... TCSS?
If we were to all use our own experiences, then we will see a lot of subjectivity which is not all that bad actually. As if we consolidate all the views, there could be an objective result too, provided the views come from a large enough base.
As for your friend, I once thought that I was the ONE too, to a non-FL. After nearly 20 years, someone else becomes the ONE. Like I asked before, what is the difference between my ex and a FL as far as matters of the heart are concern? If an FL's heart is affected by a guy's pocket, I don't think it is any different from a no-FL.
By the way, let me clarify that I am not condemning my ex in any way whatsoever. I'm only using her as an example since it's a case which I know of.
Finally, the stigma of an FL may not be erased from the guy's mind. This is true, but will the stigma of a guy cheonging FLs & WLs be erased from the girl's mind too?