[Aleoras]

Got to know a cute lady who I got along quite well with as a friend, where I only saw her as something like a little sister younger than me by half a decade. One day she suddenly started getting naughty with her texts, so I just played along and reciprocated in kind. It didn't take long afterwards for her to keep dropping obvious hints that she likes me, thus I took the leap of faith and asked her to be my girl, which she accepted.

Things were okay for merely the first day, with the lady being sweet and caring, sending messages to show her concern and becoming more explicit with the naughty texts. Then it started to get quite ugly on the second day. When she missed my reply to her text, she start accusing me of not seeing her as important and having my attention on other ladies. While I was explaining things, she went on to say things such as I can just do whatever I like, and she would do likewise. Wouldn't be so frustrated if I was out having fun or something, but I'm innocent and it's exasperating. Was irritated for a while, till the point when she came back saying she missed me and thought I didn't want to speak with her. It took quite some time that night to coax her through text and through phone conversations, until she dozed off on me during the wee hours of the morning.

Come morning the third day, it seemed like we were back to normal again. She was sweet and quite sincere in apologising for sleeping midway through the conversation, asking for forgiveness to which I assured her that no offence was taken. We met up with other friends later that day, and I paused a little while when she was chatting with the others to look at messages on my phone. A buddy contacted me to arrange for dinner the next day. It was a while since we met, so I also took a while to just check with him how's everything. She was concerned that I took some time sending messages on my phone, so I got candid with her and asked her not to worry since I was only arranging for dinner with another friend.

She got pissed immediately, just answered 'Kay' then left, leaving the rest of us baffled. A little while later, she just sent me a text saying 'Have fun at the dinner'. I got the underlying meaning, and confronted her that she was being jealous unnecessarily, that as long as she wants to keep the relationship going I will be devoted. She got started again that I can do whatever I want, and added that she can't help being jealous as she is only human and very sincere about our relationship. Skeptical on that by now but decided to give the benefit of doubt, asking her to calm down and tried to convince her that both of us need to put in effort to make the relationship work out.

Contact between us went silent for a good while after that. When she finally initiated contact again, she was saying that she missed me, she was sorry that maybe she wasn't good enough for me. Naturally, I pressed her for an answer on whether she was willing to make the relationship work. She dodged the question, and instead went on to ask that I not let her wait too long as she may have given up when I want her, and saying (in my opinion) nonsense about treating others with dignity and care in every situation while in a relationship.

The more I think about it the more the blood within my veins run cold as the conclusion derived was that she is playing with my feelings, though it makes me feel much better about the relationship. Playing hot and cold, making it seem as though I'm the one at fault, and going hysterical at every little thing. She didn't even bother asking whether I was meeting a guy or lady for dinner before flipping out. The absurdity started way too fast before any physical intimacy commenced. Logic tells me it's emotional abuse. However, it's bugging me as mutual friends were asking whether I knew what was going on since the lady seemed to be very down lately and she hasn't shared with anyone what was troubling her.

Anyone with experience in managing such freakish situations able to advise?