Originally Posted by janelee (Post 7166368)

But the diff with Sis devilhasfallen is....... He says he loves me. Should I believe him? Any advice bros?

Originally Posted by Xgenre (Post 7172226)

Is that you in your avatar? Oh if it is, I love you already. You believe me? If so, time to take off the bra and panty for a quickie already. How old are you? Still got people go to Zouk ah?

Jane, sincere men love you for your brains and your personality. Horny men love you for your body and trust me, there is nothing special about the body in your avatar. B cup with 26 inch waist, very hard to find in Singapore meh? Nothing special then what's stopping him from bedding other girls right? Don't you read the stories here? Every girl in every story here is a min C cup already. :)

Originally Posted by shctaw (Post 7172201)

What a beautiful day.
:D

Maybe you will find your Mr Right today. Do not hide at home; walk anyway, any how and most importantly anywhere.

Do not think too much of your past. Look forward.

Maybe there is someone around you whom really love you but somehow you just did not feel it. Love need time to brew. I never believe in love at first sight.

I am just a monkey pretending to be cupid...

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Originally Posted by janelee (Post 7174019)

MMMMMMM, feels like I got many slaps in the face for being so stupid - but at least its reality speaking. Thanks for the advice everyone. You're probably right ):

And yes Xgenre, I'm pretty young, and still go to zouk etc etc. Nth wrong with that? (: probably my idealism/naivety is due to my age too, causing me to fall for all he says... girls always fall for the bad boys.

Originally Posted by janelee (Post 7174105)

But in all honesty... this situation has been kinda screwing up my life. My self esteem has taken a dip, and I'm pretty sure all women out there (including sis TS!) feel that way too. Its not something that i can share with my friends, especially since most view me as this super confident, outstanding and desirable individual, so being anonymous on SBF seems like the only way to discuss this.

Originally Posted by Xgenre (Post 7176046)

Weren't you looking for wake up slaps in your first post? Since you are young, it's easier to take it as a growing up experience and tell yourself that you can do better in future. Oh by the way, it's not true that girls always fall for the bad boys but it's almost always true that naive girls always fall for the bad boys. I'm sure this forum can wise you up to the way of men.

Zouk is an interesting place. I'm surprised young girls are still going there. If your parents are young parents, they could have clubbed at Zouk too when they were your age! I clubbed at Zouk when there were still drugs readily available. Zouk was banned for a while then for drug related activities.



Are you really super confident, outstanding and desirable? Nowadays, little girls aren't shy to praise themselves one hor? :p Anyway, if you aren't desirable, your ex-bf won't want you too right? Take this episode as more of a blip in self esteem rather than a permanent drop in self-esteem. There is no better way to raise your self-esteem than to do doll yourself up and get praises from others.

I found this thread interesting. http://www.sammyboyforum.com/showthread.php?t=284107 She looks like a typical Singaporean young girl. The main difference is she costs guys $80 while some Singaporean girls are available for free.

Originally Posted by LeGarcon (Post 7177711)

Most of the time it's what we choose to believe in that causes all our misery. If janelee accepts that her ex is only using her as a free bootycall, if she's a willing party why would she even complain? The fact that she did shows that she cannot accept that fact and that she allowed herself to be a bootycall.

Choose to see the truth, with logic.

Originally Posted by shctaw (Post 7167919)

Man will say anything to bed you. If he love you; it will not be from his mouth. He will do thing from his feeling and his heart. You will feel it too.

If you hear "I love you" at least once a day. It is usually fake.

Just ask yourself when is the last time he really care about you when you are down or bring you to the doctor when you are sick. Does he walk away when you cry; and does he even want to hold your hand in public? Does he kiss you in the cheek once a while? Does he hold your hand and kiss it with his lip when you are not on the bed? Does he ever care about what happen in your family? Does he help your family at all? Does he even ask about your family? Do he look angry and rejected when you refuse to have sex?

All it voice down to one thing only: Does he care about you?

Originally Posted by janelee (Post 7183259)

Yes okay; took your advice this weekend and "dolled myself up". Accepted drinks from some guys too, but feeling a littttle bit guilty now. Is it right to accept drinks from them if im not gonna give them my number/talk to them beyond last night? My guy friends think that is super evil, apparently. Sigh, fun weekend marred by this guilt. And for you too, bro Xgenre, I suppose the 2-1 also killed your weekend a lil bit ;)

You dont mince your words do you? Do you really have to burst every little bubble I have? Haha. All the qualities I described are what people think of me, not self-praise. Obviously if I'm here lamenting about how I'm treated, I dont feel that good about myself?

Yeah but honestly...... this is not something that can be solved by going out and making guys notice me. Not so simple once you've emotions in the equation.

Originally Posted by Gambit7 (Post 7184289)

There are all kind of men in singapore. Some men can have sex with a hot pretty young girl anytime anywhere as long as there's a chance. Some men just love to have sex with his gf. Some men love to have sex only with his wife and so on. So it really depends on which type u r looking for and not judging the book by it's cover. If u jump into any guys who's a smooth talker and not knowing how deep is the water, then u only have urself to blame for it. Normally for a girl to jump into a guy takes a lot of feelings involved unless she's a slut, and when she did that, and later found out the guy's a jerk, she'll be hurt. So whose fault is it?

So get to know urself and know what u want first before considering the other person. Get to know that guy well and give urself time to analyse whether he's right for u or else u'll be spinning on an endless circle of the hurt that is created by urself.

Originally Posted by devilhasfallen (Post 7187422)

Guys are complicated... Some guys are very patient, even after spending time with them, they will make gals feel 'right' until they get them into bed, then it becomes another story.

Another thing I do not understand about guys, how can they bed a woman while loving another whom they can't get. So at the end of the day, guys treasure and think about more of those they can't get?

What about guys playing mind games?

Originally Posted by devilhasfallen (Post 7157201)

Any guys can enlighten me on the topic?

How do men differentiate it so clearly?

He can say that he gets hard the moment he sees me and loves me in bed with him but he don't like me...