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And how else would we have it?
We are lucky that is all the misery we have, and such sweet misery.

My recommendation would be to progress as far and as fast as you feel happy; accept being called tight and mean if you won't send thousands of dollars overseas.

Don't waste time with paperwork, and contracts and terms and conditions - what are you going to do - go to Vietnam and hire a bailliff to enforce the contract? You'll learn over months or years if you can trust her, and her family will still be poor then -its never too late to help out.

I had an affair with a VN freelancer over 8 or 9 years, that ended when I could not commit, and could not support her. It would have been better to have ended it earlier - for her sake, at least. If you decide you don't want a life together, let her go - chase her away even - and let her find someone else. But if you think you might want to build a life together, then don't let fear or insecurity stop you...it's only money, and one dollar bill is the same as the next one, but every lady is unique

SB

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I rather marry a hooker that will become a good wife than marry a wife that will become a hooker.

Thà lấy đỉ về làm vợ còn hơn lấy vợ về làm đỉ

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Agreed :) lol

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hi bro, just some personal advise. i have been in the same circumstance before. i have went to vietnam couple of times to find her n meet her family...

fresh n fun initially n really feels gd especially earning a few grand in sg doesnt make u any1 in sg, but u r SOMEBOdY in vietnam...

utimately u need to ask yrself:
1. can u be a person who can accept that main cons"love me love my family"
everyone in her immediate family will rely on you!
2. if u intend to marry her in sg, can u accept sum1 wo cpf that is so impt for buying hse?

hope u can weight this 2 factors... cheers!

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you really one cb...always reply in such way :D

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Nbzzz, else how to reply?? Dun suddenly jump out and scare ppl. :D

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Bro, its 50-50 chance. Take your chance and dun regret. If you ever regret then always return to this forum and read those "i told you so". Good luck.

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I can't say much. (But below is truth)
Well, my stepmum is a viet, she isn't really nice.
Though she came from rural area of vietnam, she became very materialistic in just a year after staying in singapore. And they got alot of tricks.
She sold her 2 motorbike there and came over based on her own means.
She acted innocently and became a tigress in months.
She can't afford LV , Gucci and pester my dad for it. Sigh....


Ok whatever it is....
Remember people do change as time goes by...
I think it's better to throw 5k at a marriage agency then to risk 10k at a whore. Remember one thing, FACTS usually CRUEL and hard to acknowledge.



Last but not least, it's nice to see most bros here are voicing out and most of them are giving advice on more to protect yourself dude.
10k if nothing to you, you won't be seeking help here already.
For what i know even if you earn 3k monthly, still takes sometime to save 10k also. Hope all the best to you. :)

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I only infatuate those FLs but no love because I can't accept the fact that she used to sleep with so many men.

But some of them also have their own story. Who would really want to work in this line ?

Just fuck & forget, if not, your life will be very miserable.

But for what, is it really worth it ? :rolleyes:

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irregardless on the nationality of the gal,any situation also k happen.
Be Safe,Not Sori

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hi bro,

below is my thinking and would like to share with you.

q1)buy digital camera for her?
i will not buy cos is a luxury for her.why she need that?maybe to show off to ppl or family in vietnam cos face is very important to vietnamese.if she is in this trade mean she need money,so why need to spend on that?

q2)1k to 2k allowance for her so she can quit this trade and give her family money?
1k to 2k is a lot for you if you are earning less than 2k to 3k per month,i assume you earn around there,in vietnam,city area around 1k to survive will do but also depends on how big is her family.dont be surprise that their living standard can be the same as sg.Their egg is more expensive than sg if you dont know:)

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I dun think Vietnam living standard same as SG, I have been in Hanoi for 2 years... living standard is much lower in Vietnam comparing to SG.

Let me give u a small example, few hours ago, I went to a ma ma shop n bought a lighter same lighter as what u get in SG. Here it costs 3000VND which is about 0.22SGD. I can give u more example of daily expenses if u want to compare and I doubt the eggs here are more expensive. :rolleyes:

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Hi bro,since you are in hanoi for 2 years,you should know more than me.

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Not exactly true dude, I know a few of these WL who are in it because of greed. Come on, they can easily earn more than a grand on a good night. On a bad night also got at least 100+. And on top of all that, they still have guys falling in love with them all the time.

To the TS, dude, she is a whore. She might be a nice person at heart, but she is a whore. WL is a glorified name we have given these girls because we, the customers are self conscious about visiting whores so we give them names like freelancers or WLs to make ourselves feel better. But I must remind you that she is a whore, and I and many other people in the forum have did all kinds of nasty things to her before.

Who knows, your father, your uncle, your brother, your best friend have already fucked her too. I might have fucked her too. Do you want your family and children to have that kind of legacy? Your CNY celebrations if you bring her to your office or your family, and everyone is like "Hey.. long time never see" Suddenly everyone is her ex boyfriend. Can you deal with that?

Her story I have already heard before also. I have one friend who got involved with a viet ktv girl just like you. Exact same story. She wanted money to start up family business in viet. Take from my friend 20,000. She did start up a business, coffee shop, not coffee shop close down, because she was running an illegal bookie operation and she lost all the money.

So she now pai say to ask for more money, but what does she do?

Easy, she just broke up with that guy.

When there is easy money coming in, people do not treasure it. More importantly you are not investing. You are giving. An investor would evaluate the risks, ROI etc, but u are just giving. They are starting a business they have no background in, with money that just dropped from the heavens - do you think they will succeed?

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bros, most of their story & plight are the same. better be safe than sorry.
i have a friend who was in your same shoe few years ago and in the end he married her becoz he is too desperado...even though he know the girl is cheating on him with ulterior motive. long story....my friend has not even make a trip back to vietnam with her before.. smell fishy right yet my friend is willing to be a dog and listen....she has demanded my friend to help her to settle 10k business debt in vietnam or else she will go back to her trade in joo chiat...because of this issue my friend is not happy with us because we fuck him up for doing such a stupid things...

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TS:

Not all Viet KTV girls are really that bad. Yes, to them their family come first. In fact all Asian women think that way too. There are some really nice and good Viet girls out there. My one does not asked a single cents from me. There was once she even lied to me that she is going home to Hanoi to see her family but in reality she went to Hcmc to see doctors for surgically. During that time, if she wants, she could have easily asked me for monies for her medical needs.

Just do what you think is correct for yourself. There is no such things as Right or Wrong. No one in SBF can actually tell you what to do. You can only blame yourself for picking the wrong girl to be your wife or vice verse you can also congrate yourself for picking a very understanding wife.

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Its takes one with life's deeper insights to be able to quote what you have just said my dear friend ;) Nice one there :p

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In another word - You will be responsible for whatever decision you make, whether good or bad. What people tell you is just advice which they are not reponsible for. Advices are cheap and abundance in supply. :)

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We tend to condemn the whole lot when we have bad experience with just one of them or vice versa. Take my bro for instance, who was already in his late 40 when he fall in love with a PRC girl. All my aunties, uncles, including my own mother were strongly against his relationship stating: monies sucker etc........ as reasons. I simply told my mother: my bro is no more young and despite his qualification as a division manager with a major MNC company, he still cannot find a local girl to settle down. We should let him decide what he wants. Are they going to be responsible if he can't settle down?

Thank you. Please do not get me wrong, like all bros here, I do meet all type of girls when I cheong. I am lucky in the sense that majority of the Vbs I know and close to me tend to be very understanding type. Despite the facts that many of them are in deep shit trouble back home with all kind of financial problems, they never once asked me for help. A lot of times I even offered to help them but was turned down flatly.

Senior bros here will know that in all my ten years with Vbs I only really fall for 2 girls. The first one who is now holding a 'ex' status is a monies sucker. Every thing she own or want must be branded: eg. top of the range mobile phone, must eat at high class restaurants. Even must bring her to golf course equiped with the best equipments. Every time during CNY she will asked me for monies to help her mum to paid her ah long debt. The last amount she asked from me was USD12,000.00! (Yes, the figures are correct and your eyes is not playing trick on you) My other girl is completely reversed, once I remembered bringing her to a high end Vietnamese restaurant to eat. When she saw the prices in the menu she was really unhappy cos the prices are 3 times higher than those in JC. That was the one and only time I ate with her in these restaurant.

In life, one must sometimes make critical decision. It all depends on what we wants, some wants Vbs for companionship (that me) some stricitly for bonking purpose. For TS whatever decision he make, just go ahead and have the time of his life

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"Advice" is a non countable noun; you do not add an "s" to make it plural.

"Advice" is like "Rice". You say... "Please pass me the Rice." You don't say "Please pass me the rices" because "Rice", like "advice", is a non countable noun.

There are many other examples. To test your knowledge of non countable nouns, go to English Language Quiz - Countable or Non-countable Nouns (I-TESL-J) and take the test.

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Thank you Boss for your lesson in English grammar.

After leaving school for so many years, you just forget all the rules on using proper grammar. My apology. :)